Just because I don’t put my life on Facebook doesn’t mean I don’t have one
So much is shared on social media by millions and it seems anything goes, anything from what time they woke up to what they’re eating, their workouts, their social hangouts, what they’re watching/listening to and hey I even know what time peoples kids went to bed and if they had a bath or not first ! If this isn’t information overload I don’t know what is, I don’t really do social media personally anymore because I find it too much – I have it for my blog and that is more than enough for me I don’t have time to upload my every move, I do have snapchat for my blog and try to snap what we eat to give others meal ideas and I fail to do this daily and I don’t think I’ve ever managed to it three times in one day! – I don’t begrudge people who do though and even those who enjoy reading about your latest lovers tiff or that you went food shopping, I’ve always lived by the mantra live and let live so if documenting your every move and sharing that with the World Wide Web makes you happy then by all means go for it and if reading about someones every move on social media makes you happy then good on ye ! but what I do begrudge is when people assume because you don’t share your every move on social media that means you didn’t well move! Did it ever occur to you that I might be to busy to share everything that I do? Too busy actually living my life and enjoying playing with my son, teaching him and watching him grow, embracing every second because I know next time he falls asleep in my lap it could be the last time he does that, next time he asks me to help him put his socks on it could be the last time – you get the jist here but really just because I don’t choose to showcase every aspect of my daily life online doesn’t mean I don’t have one because I do! I actually have an epic life ! I run 3 businesses, I speak to dead people, I spend QT with family & friends, I travel a lot and best of all I have an incredible three year old who blows my mind on a daily basis ! I am truly truly blessed !
Something else which I think should be spoken about more especially to our younger generation is just how much of what you see online is A. Not true and B. A small snippet of the best parts of people’s lives that they choose to showcase! I read recently that those who use social media are 5 times more likely to become depressed and I can see why, I scroll through Instagram and everyone I follow appears to be having the most amazing and incredible life, they have the perfect diet, the perfect fitness regime, the perfect body, the perfect boyfriend, the perfect social life and the perfect family! But it’s not a true representation of their lives, it’s just the parts they choose to show and in a filtered way! Just the other day someone said his teenage daughter had put a status on Facebook saying how she had such an amazing weekend with her wonderful family and he couldn’t understand why she wrote that because the family had had a huge row and barely spoken since ! I mean I’m all for putting a brave face on and not airing your dirty laundry in public but this was just a blatant lie to all of her Facebook friends and it got me wondering just how many people exaggerate about how incredible their lives are on social media and how this is going to affect the younger generation, are they going to look at this and feel like their lives are crap because they don’t have a perfect family or go to the perfect social gatherings…
A few years ago I was having a pub lunch with a friend and when I got home I noticed that she tagged me in a Facebook status saying that we’d had the best lunch ever , the best time ever, everything was perfect bla bla bla and I just thought really ? I mean it was nice to catch up but I wouldn’t say it was the best lunch I’d ever had nor was it the best time I’d ever had (no offence)! So yeah I call BS on this one but of course I clicked ‘like’ in agreement and never really said anything about our ‘most amazing’ lunch together but it did make me start to question people’s reality on social media. I’m not trying to dig out social media here as I do think it’s fab and it’s created so many opportunities for me, I just hope that people are aware that half of what you see isn’t true and the other half is probably exaggerated to showcase a certain image/perception which people want to portray in that moment, so kids don’t get hung up on what you see and please don’t compare your life to exaggerated snippets of other peoples and if you have that friend that remains aloof when it comes to social media don’t assume they have no life either ask them about it in person or keep your narrow minded judgments to yourself!
Have you been judged by friends because of the way you use social media? or have you judged your friends because you don’t see enough of them on social media? Let me know your thoughts in the comment section below, i’d love to hear from you.
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